Singletary says his style suited for the NFL

Posted by ESPN.com's Mike Sando

Mike Singletary recently finished up with Dan Patrick. Audio here. The Singletary interview begins about 20 or 25 minutes into the hour-long slot.

Patrick came right out and said he wondered whether Singletary's approach might be better suited to the high school or college level. Singletary used the opportunity to explain how, in his view, that type of characterization was based on misperceptions.

Singletary: We're going to find out. In all honesty, what I think has happened, I think just a lot of coaches, it's kind of like parenting. In order to do the job, you have to stick with it, you have to be consistent, you have to continue. If you say, 'This is something that we're not doing,' we're not doing it. That doesn't mean if you keep doing it, I'm just going to say, 'OK, you know what, forget it.' I am going to stay true to my word. And I don't think that has gone out of style. I don't think it matters if you are in college, I don't think it matters if you are in high school, I don't think it matters if you are in the pros. I am just going to stay true to my word.

I think a lot of people, starting with the Vernon Davis incident, really feel that I am a yeller and a screamer and an intimidator. I think if you ask my guys, I don't think you would get that. I think the No. 1 thing that I am about is relationships. I am all about relationships. You can scream, you can yell, you can be a nice guy, you can do all those things. You can have all types of styles. But if you don't have a relationship with those players, it doesn't matter. It's not going to work.

I want to know who they are, I want to know where they from, I want to know about their families, I want to know about their wives, their girlfriends, their kids. I want to know what day they were born, I want to know what food they eat, I want to know who their friends are, I want to know who are the impact players in their lives. I want to know all those things. To me, when you talk about those things and when you ask a kid about his life and not just football, then I think he begins to understand that you care more about him as a man than you do a football player. Because if I get a man -- and that is the toughest thing to find in this game -- if I can get a man, if I can find one, then I have a chance to have a good football player.

Solid answer. We've discussed misperceptions about the 49ers on the blog quite a bit (don't get Nizzles started about whether the 49ers are going to be only a running team). Sending Davis to the locker room during the game and then dropping his pants to emphasize a point in the locker room indeed raised eyebrows, including mine, but Singletary has moved past those things and established consistency in his actions.