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Boston Red Sox broadcaster Jerry Remy says he is committed to staying on the job even after a Boston Globe report detailed his son's long criminal history.
"With the support of the Red Sox and NESN, my decision has been made to go on," Remy said Friday in an interview with Boston sports radio station WEEI. "Hopefully in time those who don't like the idea will come around. If not, I certainly understand how people feel."
Remy's son, Jared, is in jail awaiting trial. He is accused of murdering Jennifer Martel, the mother of their now-5-year-old daughter last August. His father, who took a leave of absence from the broadcast booth from the time of the murder until spring training, expressed remorse at "enabling" his son over the years but said he has "a right to make a living."
"What are we guilty of?" he said Friday. "We're guilty of getting him lawyers when he was in trouble. We were well aware what was going on with Jared and we tried our best to do everything along the way to get him as much help as we possibly could. And then for a stretch it seemed like he had his life in order, and then of course everything caved in.
We did the best that we possibly could. We thought we were loving parents, and we thought we were trying to do what we could to get this kid on the right track, and we failed. It's that plain and simple." -- Jerry Remy, Red Sox broadcaster,
on his son, who is charged with murder
"Did we enable him? Yes. We paid for lawyers, we paid for a psychiatrist, we paid for the help that we thought he needed. I think a lot of families would have done the same thing. Others would not have. Others would have thrown him out into the street, but that just wasn't our way. When you look back on it, was it the right thing to do? I don't have an answer to that. I really don't have an answer for that."
Remy was asked whether he ever considered withdrawing financial support from his son in the hope it would spark a turnaround in his life.
"It was not an option," Remy said. "He was our son, he's our son, and we tried to do the best that we possibly could for him. Unless you go through something like this, like I said, people have different ways of dealing with their own personal families, and I was in a position where I felt that we could deal with it in a proper way and get him the proper help. Believe me, we tried everything we possibly could.
"You look back and you say, 'Maybe we should have did things differently.' But the fact is he was a kid that couldn't hold on to a job. He couldn't do this, he couldn't do that, and one thing you've got to keep in mind through all this is that we wanted the best for our granddaughter, too. He was living with Jennifer, and our granddaughter was there, and we didn't want to see her thrown out on the street and begin a life in a horrible way. And obviously it's horrible now. But that's just the way we felt. That's the type of people we are.
"Some people can accept that and some people still can't accept it, so looking back I don't know if I would do things differently. I really don't. We did the best that we possibly could. We thought we were loving parents, and we thought we were trying to do what we could to get this kid on the right track, and we failed. We failed. It's that plain and simple. There's no better way to describe it than we were not successful."
Earlier this week, Remy and his wife, Phoebe, reached an agreement with the Martel family to have visitation rights with their granddaughter.
Remy said he hasn't been bothered by investigative reports about his son's past, but he did take issue with a columnist who called into question his scruples as a grandparent.
"It's that kind of reporting that's disgusting to me," Remy said. "What are we going to do, bring our granddaughter into our house and show her pictures of Daddy? Give me a break. Are we going to have her on the phone with him from the can? Give me a break. Are we going to take her to visitations to jail? We're not stupid.
"You can call us the worst parents in the world. I can accept that. You can call me an enabler. I can accept that. But when you start talking about how we're going to treat our granddaughter toward her father and say foolish, stupid things like that, that is absurd. That is something we'd never, ever expose her to."